Love is More than a Holiday

How many commercials can we watch knowing it’s coming up on Valentine’s Day which tell us how much someone special will love us if we just buy them that car, diamond, hi-tech gizmo or toy?  I don’t know about y’all, but I sure get tired of consumerism for holidays.  I mean, since when did giving a car show more love than giving flowers, a card or even a simple poem from the heart?

Does it mean one has to buy something expensive to show love? When thinking of love, automatically one thinks of fuzzy feelings, sweating palms, fluttering hearts and all the emotion and hormones that ‘falling’ in love entails.  And of course one thinks of love on holidays such as Valentine’s Day.

But really, what is love?

The Bible describes love in 1 Corinthians 1 …if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Yes, lovers love and yet so do family members and friends and that love spans generations. Even knowing a person without having met face to face… love exists.

Concern, prayers, and genuine gladness for each other is displayed here daily, in friendship and in love.

Love is supposed to be unconditional, but it doesn’t always work the way things are supposed to, and yet you can still love someone but not like them sometimes. You can be angered, yet love still cools you down and shows up in other ways.

Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes. I’m not nearly the best mom in the world but I know I love my son and will do whatever I have to or able to, to protect him against someone who’d mean to harm him. I don’t always trust his judgment, but I know he will make better choices when he understands that choices always come with consequences. And I always hope that he will turn out to be a good man who has a personal relationship and love for Jesus.

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

A mother will oftentimes protect those she loves even if it means harm to her. And while one doesn’t necessarily think of war when they think of love, I know from my best friend and others that it is the soldier who loves as the Lord does- by laying down their lives if that’s what it takes for their families and those they love, or even an innocent stranger.

Our troops and those who have fought in the past oftentimes have been equated with hate and violence for the sake of violence, yet in some ways so many of them know and display love more than anyone in the way they defend and love those they fight for and with.  Love is an action, not a good intention.

Never leave a brother behind… taking a bullet for your brother, running towards the fight to get the fallen out of harm’s way… and how much can good intentions compare to accompanying a flag draped coffin and standing next to the grieving widow and/ or parents when their own heart is broken for their loss?

Love never fails…faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. Love never fails.

Valentines Day is like other holidays and celebratory days for me- hard -because I still miss Michael. But even after we lose someone we love, the love is still there. Even when we have faith and hope to love and be loved again, even if not by physical here and now companionship, we know the lover of our souls, our Creator, Father, Savior adores us.

I am blessed because God has shown me what love is – not just in words, but in the people he’s put in my life, many of whom I’ve never met face to face, and most likely won’t until we all get to the other side.

And once we are there, the love will be the most intense, real, whole and complete love.

 

Love is more than a holiday, and while it’s nice for those who have someone special to show their love for each other, I am grateful for the Father’s love, and for that from the folks who come here every day.

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, and I hope everyone has a blessed, safe and happy one.