Patience? I have to admit, that’s not one of my strong points and I can tend to run short on it too often. Yet I am learning to find it under different circumstances more than what I could previously imagine.
Patience however seems to be something a lot of people run short on, especially these days. Maybe because almost everything in our society is instantanious or quick, when we come up against something like interacting with others, trying to maintain relationships and discussing different opinions, patience is hard to be found.
Kindness? What about Grace? Grace is something severely lacking in our society these days. And I’m not talking about the elegant, old fashioned kind, although there’s not a whole lot of that these days either.
But consider grace. In a society which is supposedly more enlightened and civil, where more people call for love, acceptance and tolerance, there sure isn’t much grace abounding.
The definition of grace is curtesy, considerate and kindness, but also mercy. In a world where there is as much interaction between friends online as there is face to face relationships, it’s hard sometimes to maintain and nurture a true friendship- but I can say by experience, and I’d venture to guess a lot of folks here feel the same, lasting and true friendships can happen even when we’ve never met someone face to face.
Yet communication online is somewhat easier because one has time to think out conversations, discussions and ideas before typing or texting, oftentimes is much harder because context, intent and emotion is harder to describe or get across by written words alone. There are things missed when you don’t have that eye to eye connection, and while emojis are cute and fun, they don’t always get the point across either. And it’s easier for people to be offended, hurt or annoyed by things said online than it is in person. We see that every day about twitter, facebook or other social media sites…
Where there isn’t much patience, kindness, grace or mercy found anymore. It’s too easy to immerse oneself in arguing with people all day, or talking about others with insults, but it’s also too easy to walk away without extending some grace, or mercy for some perceived insult or offense.
Relationships, especially meaningful ones aren’t easy, online or off, and I know I’ve messed up plenty of times online and off. I’ve not been the kindest, or patient friend over the years in some cases, and haven’t extended much grace or mercy at times either when it was needed. Hopefully I’ve learned though from past mistakes, past experiences and try to understand where people are coming from so I’m not as quick to take offense or give it.
When it comes to friendships, we all hopefully learn from each other, or from our past failures, because friendships are worth our efforts to maintain and take care of. Friendship is love, and love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Imagine if the world practiced what they preach, practice what they demand and practice what they claim they have.
I guess to know whatever happened to love, people need to learn and remember what love is, and Who Love is. Then extend the same to others as He extended to us through His Son.
Have a blessed day all!